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Unsure

Jun 22

Posted by Bobbi in Product Reviews, Site info, Wedding | 1 Comment

All the wedding buzz that is going on in our families right now is a lot of fun, but with a little over a month to go, I’m starting to get nervous.  My anxiety has increased, I’m having more difficulty falling asleep, and my mind races a lot.  I’m not unsure about getting married or unsure about marrying Tom, but it’s just kind of scary.  Maybe the scariness is a combination of things – moving to a new city, starting at a new school, uncertainty of jobs, etc.  So much is happening all at the same time, and I am finally starting to realize that I can’t just ignore it.  I need to process my feelings and everything that is going on, because if I don’t, I will start feeling miserable.

Tom and I went to an all-day marriage retreat through our church on Saturday, and we both got A LOT from it.  It focused on communication, finances/stewardship, and natural family planning.  There was an older couple, who have been married for 40 years, that came towards the end of the retreat.  They talked about the struggles they went through and how they got to where they are today.  I have to admit, I had tears in my eyes at the end of their presentation because it was so special to see a long-lasting marriage (especially in the wake of my parents’ devastating divorce).  The retreat helped us both a lot, but it actually helped me quite a bit personally – with my anxiety and uncertainty about what is ahead for me and for my marriage.  I feel more calm and ready for what’s up next in my life.

I guess I just needed to vent about my worries and how I’m feeling, because I feel so much better already!

On another note, I wanted to let you know that I am trying to get back into paid posting.  As always, I’m not going to write crappy posts just for the sake of posting the links I need to.  I try really hard to add the links into posts in a way that does not distract the reader.  Sometimes that can be difficult (like when I have to come up with topics for the same weight loss pills links) but I do try my best.

My Bridal Shower

Jun 15

Posted by Bobbi in Family, Memories, Occasions, Uncategorized, Wedding | 4 Comments

Last Saturday, my best friend and I got up early to make our trip home for the weekend.  Well, to my home.  She lives on the other coast.  Anyway, we grabbed a quick breakfast at McDonald’s and started our trip.  As we drove, we talked wedding, goings on in our lives, and all that girly stuff.  We made it home by 11:30am.  My mom was so excited to see us!  We got all of our stuff inside and ran up to the cake place.  The cake lady agreed that the flowers we bought for the cake wouldn’t work.  We agreed on hydrangeas that she would die to match our lilac color.  I love going to the cake place, because the lady has it set up like a dainty boutique.  Seriously, it is wedding cake mania in there, with a cute dining room table and chairs for tastings.  She serves everything on china and even serves water in tea cups! 

We had enough time after going to talk with the cake lady to get home, change, and head to the shower.  My sister was already there when we arrived, but she and my sister-in-law (also my matron of honor) were still setting up.  It was weird; they wouldn’t let me help and I had nothing to do!  I started feeling really weird, almost like an out of body experience.  It was a combination of anxiety and the thought of being the center of attention.  People starting coming, I would greet and introduce them, and before I knew it, the party had begun!

We started out with introductions around the room; since there were about 30 people there, we pretty much needed to have everyone introduce themselves.  The sweetest thing was when we got to my stepdad’s family – everyone introduced themselves as my sister, aunt, cousin – no “step” involved.  It was a very subtle thing, but very special to me. 

We got some food (which was amazing – finger sandwiches, spinach dip, fruit skewers, sangria, wine, etc.) and started the first game.  My sister-in-law asked Tom a bunch of questions beforehand, and she asked me those.  People guessed how many I would get right.  If I got a question wrong, I had to put a piece of gum in my mouth.  Out of 12 questions, I got 7 wrong!  I swear though, Tom tricked me.  No joke, one of the questions was “How many times in a day do I fart?”  I guessed 50 times, but his answer was, “17.  One day, I counted.”  Tom’s mom was mortified, and I was slightly embarrassed, but everyone laughed.  I made sure to get a picture of my chewed gum for Tom, since he gave me such interesting questions to answer!

The next game we played was a “Bobbi or Tom” bingo game.  Several questions were asked, people would show a “B” or “T” on their paddle and would get to mark that square on their bingo card if they got it right.  We didn’t make it all the way through the questions before someone called “BINGO!”

Next up, we had cake and I began opening my gifts.  I got an insane amount of gifts!  My most prized possession was what I received from my future mother-in-law.  Her gift was wrapped in a shirt box, and when I opened it, there was a letter that told me about the gift.  The letter told me about Tom’s christening cap that was too big for his little head.  The christening cap is to be used for my handkerchief the day of the wedding.  As you can imagine, it was a very emotional moment, and I cried a lot!
The rest of the pictures are those that I picked from the 180 or so that my sister-in-law took and sent to me.  Click to see the full size pictures.  I had such a wonderful time with thirty or so women that I adore.  I can’t wait for the wedding!

Wishes for Furniture

Jun 13

Posted by Bobbi in Ideas, Moving, Product Reviews, Wedding | Comments off

Remember when my dogs chewed up our couch?  When we move, we are getting rid of the couch with a big hole in it.  We’re also thinking about getting rid of the makeshift couch we bought; although it’s in good condition, it has some holes in the cushions and we don’t want them to get worse.  I am hoping that we will receive enough wedding money to help pay for new living room furniture.  I’d just like a couch, loveseat, and maybe a couple side tables.  I’ve been scanning Craigslist but can’t find a set – only individual pieces.  I would love to get a sectional, like my sister-in-law has.  It’s fluffy, so comfortable, and seats a lot more people – in other words, much more functional than what we have now!

Penny Pinching

Jun 10

Posted by Bobbi in Savings, School, Wedding | 4 Comments

I have SO much to discuss about my bridal shower, but I want to save that for another post, when I can actually include pictures!  Right now, I don’t have any, but will be getting a DVD of them next time I see my future sister-in-law. 

I got my financial aid package for law school.  On the one hand, YAY, I got a scholarship and my expected family contribution (according to FAFSA) is $0.  That means I qualify for more Federal Stafford loans than I did in undergrad.  On the other hand, OUCH, we will be taking out about $200,000 when all is said and done.  Between Stafford loans, our combined undergrad loans, and private loans (to make up the difference in what I wasn’t offered in my financial aid package), it’s going to be a lot.  Granted, I thought I’d be taking out more like $300,000, so I feel good about that (at least).

Now that we know that, we are definitely pinching pennies even more!  It is depressing to think about taking that much money out, but thankfully I will (one day) have a good job that allows us to pay it back.  A good portion of the interest will be paid by the government, too (thank you Subsidized loans that I actually qualify for this time around!).

Scary, yet fun – tonight I logged into my student account at my law school – for the first time ever.  Don’t ask me why, but it was the coolest and scariest feeling!  I have said it about a million times, but I CAN’T BELIEVE I’M GOING TO LAW SCHOOL.  I’m so excited and nervous!

Speaking of the law, work is going so well.  Whoa, I almost just typed “school” instead of “work.”  Yeah, I forgot what going to school feels like, haha.  That feeling will come back soon enough though, right?  I’ll eat my words in August, haha.

I just realized how ridic this post is.  Sorry!  I’m feeling a mix of emotions and in the process, babbling all over the place.  I want to go play Sims 3 (which I got in the mail yesterday) but my book (John Grisham’s The Street Lawyer …. haha) is also calling my name.  Hmmm….

Our Wedding China

Jun 4

Posted by Bobbi in Memories, Wedding | 7 Comments

Tom and I spent quite awhile looking online and in stores, trying to agree on a china pattern.  We ended up deciding on Lenox Opal Innocence, which happens to be Macy’s most popular pattern.  If you click on the link, you’ll be brought to a page that includes a picture (that can be enlarged) of the beautiful china.  Make sure to enlarge it so you can see all the detail!

So far, we have received a few pieces.  How do I know?  I’ve been peaking at my registries.  I know, I probably shouldn’t be doing that, because I won’t be surprised when I open gifts on Saturday.  But I still don’t know who is giving the gifts, since the website(s) only say “fulfilled” or “completed” next to the items that have been purchased.  So it’s not 100% surprise, but I’m also not completely ruining it.

Speaking of the shower, I am getting very excited about it.  I bought this dress to wear and it fits PERFECTLY!  Also, it’ll be perfect to bring on the honeymoon for dinner out or something.  About 30 people are coming to the shower, a combination of family and friends.  I cannot wait to see everyone.  Some ladies I haven’t seen in quite a few years.  Others I see quite a bit, but it will be fun to share such a special event with them.  We’re playing two games (not cheesy ones, of course), will have snacks and Sangria, I’ll open gifts and everyone will eat cake.  I CAN’T WAIT!  Then Sunday, I have my first dress fitting.  I’m nervous because … well, I don’t know why.  One of my bridesmaids will be with me though, so that will be nice to have her there. 

Other than the looming shower stuff, wedding planning has become a lot less stressful this week.  This is for two reasons.  One, we spoke up about the rehearsal dinner and decided that what was planned for us was not really what we wanted.  It is going to be a lot cheaper (and more fun!) the way that it is planned now.  Two, I am back on my meds for anxiety, so I don’t feel so stressed and overwhelmed.  Within one day of being back on them, I felt so much better.  Which is good, because I was starting to turn into a biatch!

On a completely unrelated note, I broke and bought Sims 3.  Should be here in 3 days!  Am I lame because I’m 22 and playing this game still?  My stepdad doesn’t let me live it down that I spent my first college Christmas break on the couch playing it….